In the era of convenience, social media has changed the dating game forever. The “swiping” dating movement has eliminated the need to find a compatible match. Basically, these swiping apps say, “do whatever you want.” If it looks good, “do it.” It is not about finding that special person. It is about f*cking that attractive person. This has created a sexual frenzy among millennials. Before the internet and the evolution of dating apps, the opportunity for sex usually had to go through a process. You had to go somewhere, meet someone, and then “get busy” J. Now, it seems people are barely meeting before banging. In fact, the people who want to be promiscuous now have all the opportunities in the world to do so. And, of course, it is their right as free Americans to live a sexually liberated lifestyle if they want to. But personally, I miss the effort of trying to connect to someone. Swiping to get sex was personally just a phase for me.
The key thing I feel those swiping apps killed was chivalry. Many of the women I “swiped” appeared to disregard and reject the idea of chivalry. We are millennials bred in a world of supposed love convenience, and with that has come the death of chivalry. Believe it or not, I met women who hated when I opened the door for them. They were convinced chivalry was an act of sexism… Can you believe that? Yeah, I couldn’t either. Well, I guess it’s about time I try to put an end to this madness.
You see Chivalry is an act of pride. Yes, I understand many people would say pride can be an evil thing. And, at times, I would probably agree with them. However, being chivalrous is more than that. It is an act of courtesy, politeness and respect. It is also something that can confirm feelings for someone. A man chooses to take care of a woman because she is sacred to him. Not because we are “the provider” of the relationship. But, instead, because we respect and cherish our partners. If a man happens to take pride in taking care of his family, no one has the right to tell him or his family that they are living “incorrectly.” We men are simple and like doing nice things for women who mean a lot to us. I guess there are women who don’t understand that. Instead some men and women would rather stereotype the act as misogynistic. Chivalry was something beautiful that women loved, and men secretly did too. Maybe it is time we find a way to bring it back for our children’s sakes.
We need to again take the time to meet, understand and respect each other. It can’t just be about convenience and speed to the deed. So, for all you guys out there that still believe in being chivalrous and respectful, I tip my cap to you. For those that don’t, please rethink your actions. We are different than women and we should embrace that. Women out there need chivalry to show how special they really are to men. Maybe if chivalry was more present, the self-esteem of women, and even men, for that matter, would improve.